Lovers
Lovers
I have watched thousands of lovers.
Every day they come to me; they bring their problems.
But the basic problem that I have been looking at is that lovers by and by come to a compromise.
The compromise is: You don't hurt me, I will not hurt you.
That's what marriage is.
Then people become settled.
They become so afraid of pain that they say, "Don't hurt me and I will not hurt you."
But then when pain disappears, Love also disappears.
They exist together.
I have heard: The male patient complained to the dentist that he was in terrible pain, but he insisted on saving the tooth.
The dentist put on his white coat, adjusted the light n his forehead, started his drill, and said, "Okay, now open your mouth and we'll see what we can do."
Just then the patient grabbed him below the belt. "What the hell are you doing?"the dentist screamed."Now," the man said quietly, not letting go, "we're not going to hurt each other,are we?"
Now this is what happens.
When you are in love, love hurts.
It hurts terribly.
Then you grab each other and you say, "What...!
Make a compromise: let it no more be a love affair -- let it be a marriage.
Make it legal.
And I will not hurt you if you don't hurt me." Then husbands and wives live together without being together.
They live together alone.
They tolerate at the most.
They are patient with each other, but love has disappeared.
Love is painful.
Never resist, never create any barrier for pain.
Allow it.
And by and by you will see that it was a wrong interpretation.
It is not really pain.
OshO 💕
The Discipline of Transcendence, Vol 4
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