People go on thinking they are Loving.
People go on thinking they are Loving.
You have not known love, you have not even tasted a single drop of it.
Love happens only when you are full of joy; love is a shadow of joy, it doesn’t happen directly. Only a blissful person is a loving person.
A miserable person goes on saying that he loves, but in the name of love something else is masquerading.
He NEEDS love, that’s true – he is a beggar. And because he needs love, he pretends at least to show that he gives because nobody is going to give you love if you don’t at least pretend to give.
Watch. What do you mean when you say ’I love you’?
Do you really love?
Or do you simply feel ’This person is so beautiful, if he or she loves me that will be fantastic’?
Now you have to throw a net, a trap: you say ’I love you.’ You are just a beggar – you are waiting to get his or her love; you are bargaining.
And the other is doing the same, remember – the other is also saying ’I am deeply
in love with you.
I would like to share my love with you.’
And the other is also needy and greedy.
Two greedy persons just pretending to give – they really want to GET.
That’s why all lovers feel cheated and frustrated. Sooner or later the faces are worn out and the reality comes up.
And you are demanding love – she demands and you demand and there is conflict and there is fight.
The fight between lovers is the fight between two demanding hearts, two greedy persons.
If it is only a sharing, why fight?
Sharing knows no jealousy, only greed knows jealousy.
Then you are afraid and you are constantly watching the woman, whether she is giving
her love to somebody else – because if she is giving some love to somebody else, that much love is lost towards you.
You are greedy. ’Was she laughing with that man? She never laughs like that with me.
What is happening?’ Suspicions arise. ’Why should she laugh with anybody else? Because there is only a certain quantity of laughter. And she laughed with that man: now she will not laugh with me.’
You live in an economy of scarcity.
Mm? She kissed that man, now how can she kiss you? The kiss is finished!
Now you are at a loss; you have been cheated.
This is all greed pretending to be love.
It is not sharing, it is an effort to get: ’How to get more?’
And naturally the greedy mind tries to give less and to get more – that’s what Income is.
And both are trying to make Profit out of it: Give Less and Get More.
OshO 💕
CHAPTER 8. THIS ORANGE EPIDEMIC
The Revolution
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